Porn Addiction
XXXchurch exists to bring be light in the midst of the dark, shallow and superficiality within a culture that has been affected by pornography. The thrust is to bring awareness, openness, accountability and recovery to the church, society and individuals who have been affected pornography. Through non-judgmental and creative means, XXXchurch delivers this message of hope and healing.
Help people overcome porn addiction
What do you know about pornography addiction?
Any Christian man who is engaging in sexual immorality of any sort is a man in conflict. He is a man whose actions do not match his beliefs. Often it starts by viewing pseudo-pornography--things such as modeling web sites, chat rooms, personal homepages, and other web sites that often contain provocative images, but may not be labeled pornography.
Very quickly this type of online behavior can cause you to fall into a place where these images are not enough anymore--and the watcher begins to "need" more graphic images to be stimulated. Often you will hear someone who has gotten addicted say, "I have no idea how I got here--it started so innocently." Pornography is both very enticing and very addictive. The websites that are distributing the material are designed to draw in the viewer, tempt with free content and easy sign-ups--in an attempt to snare new users.
Are you addicted?
There are excellent addiction tests on the internet that can help you figure out if you have unhealthy sexual behavior. We are not going to attempt to duplicate those tests here, but we will provide you with this basic definition and challenge:
If your life has been over taken by your sexual desires and actions, instead of YOU being in control of them, then you have a sex addiction and should ponder getting help.
Questions you can ask:
Here are a few questions you can ask yourself about the symptoms of sex addiction and its stages:
- Has a pattern of behavior (which we'll define as "acting out"--for example, looking at pornography), gotten out of control?
- Has your acting out increased in frequency since a year ago?
- Has your acting out increased in intensity since a year ago? (For example, maybe a year ago, you were enticed by a swimsuit magazine, and now are not.)
- Have you tried to stop the "acting out" in the past, but not been successful?
- Has your acting out intruded into your financial life? (Have you spent your savings on prostitutes or pornography?)
- Has your acting out intruded into family life? (Have you, on many occasions, spent valuable family time away from your family indulging your sex addiction?)
- Has your acting out entailed personal, professional, or legal risk? (If you have looked at porn on the job, had sex with a prostitute, or had an affair, you have most likely created significant risk.)
Here is another way to evaluate:
Every Christian man and woman is in one of these three groups:
TARGETED
Every Christian man is "targeted" by Satan. Just like every young man is a target for cigarette ads, because every young man is a potential smoker, so too, every Christian man is succeptable to sexual sin. Your walk with God, your faith, your ability to lead a church, your ability to be a strong husband and father, your ability to be a man of honor, are all under attack by sexual sin. If you are not "Tempted" or in the "Trenches" (see below) beware that you are not moving in that direction.
TEMPTED
Men in the "Tempted" group are men who are already seeing sexual sin or sexual temptation impact their life in some way, have recognized that it could be a significant problem if not dealt with, and/or have recognized a propensity to struggle with lust or sexual compulsivity.
Most men fit into this group. Most men are somewhat regularly hit with sexualized messages (TV, magazine stand, movies) and often are exposed to pornography without their consent (SPAM, etc.). If sexual temptation is dealt with, is out in the open (via accountability relationships, etc.) then often it can remain just that, a temptation. But in many cases, just as our bodies, if left alone, will naturally decay--i.e., our bodies, on their own, don't get "fit"--so too, your sexual purity will naturally decline without specific work to stay pure and move towards Christ.
TRENCHES
Men in the "Trenches" are men whose lives are in some large part, being controlled by sexual sin. This could be in the form of Internet pornography, an extra-marital affair, or other behavior. Maybe at one point, the problem was limited to the occasional viewing of a pornographic email or quickly viewing an inappropriate banner ad--but has now escalated into hours of pornography consumption per day. Being in the "trenches", is by our definition synonymous with addiction. Other common symptoms of sexual addiction include behaviors that have caused or could cause legal, employment, or financial damage (seeing a prostitute, looking at pornography on the job, and using your family savings for online pornography are all examples of this).
